Polite Lies has ratings and 46 reviews. Daniel said: I loved Kyoko Mori’s commitment to honesty, even when that meant blackening the eyes of people i. Mori–who was 12 when she lost her mother to suicide–sees that death as a rejection of the polite lie of marital harmony and stability. Polite Lies. On being a Woman Caught Between Cultures. Kyoko Mori “Mori’s observations about lies and their consequences build to a powerful effect.
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She got married and continued to make her home here. It also seemed as if she wanted to permanently silence her father. Henry Holt and Co.
Account Options Sign in. Jan 12, Raquel rated it liked it. The Woman’s Retreat Book. This is a beautifully crafted series of essays, linked in a lovely way. Writing to Heal the Soul. Whenever I hear a child laugh, I think of my dad and how he could make me smile almost at whim We appreciate your feedback.
She finds the Japanese language vague and constrictive-a common complaint of the rigid social structure of the society where everybody belongs, but no one is allowed to be himself or herself. Sometimes the interesting cultural examinations didn’t mesh well with her life story – which was sad in many ways, especially when it came to her relationship with her mother. I’m familiar with the Midwest, especially Green Bay, so I really enjoy seeing her perspe I first read Kyoko Mori’s A Dream of Water my freshman year of college four years ago and was struck by how beautifully she writes.
Some of the observations seem like broad generalizations and others seem to be heavily influenced by a very unhappy childhood where her mother committed suicide when she was just a girl and she had to endure an abusive and unloving father who may have been a sociopath. It’s not like she has loads of great things t This book should have been called, ‘I’ve Got an Ax to Grind with Japan’. Throughout, Mori examines the paradox at the center of her own life: Even with that caveat, though, I feel like Mori went a bit far.
I learned so much that was surprising, ‘shocking’ is not an overstatement, about the restraint of the Japanese culture and particularly its burden on women. As an insight into the psychopathology of Myoko Mori herself, Polite Lies is unparalleled. I was lazy today and read fast, but next time, I’ll be poring over it slowly as it should be read.
Sep 21, Patrick McCoy rated it liked it Shelves: Khoko likely all authors believe their memoirs need to be heard, but some seem to write defensively, as a form of justifying their lives and actions. I think she has some excellent points, especially the illustrations on how linguistics color culture, but she becomes entirely too unreliable from her personal attacks on people.
Japan isn’t the only world where destructive patriarchy rules. What might be seen as bitterness on her part, or at least self-pity, I politr as related to the points she was makin If we had half-stars, I’d probably call this one a 3.
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I really liked her comparison of houses and marriages in Japan to small town Green Bay Wisconsin, too. In both places she has been an outsider, unable to quite mimic everyone’s polite lies. Born and raised in Japan, the Americanized Mori expounds on the restrictive, complicated and traditional Kies society she seems to despise.
I enjoyed the honest and eye opening mpri of Japanese and American cultures. How Did I Get Here? Random Acts of Kindness. They seemed to genuinely like each other.
POLITE LIES by Kyoko Mori | Kirkus Reviews
Her memoirs this is the 2nd I’ve read so far often read like journal entries where she justifies and defends her actions to the reader — this is why I divorced my ex-husband, this is why I did this, etc. You are Wabi Sabi: Whenever I read a good book I feel at home. Close Report a review At Kobo, we try to ensure that published reviews do not contain rude or profane language, spoilers, or any of our reviewer’s personal information.